When we were children, many of us had dreams of becoming one thing or another once we became adults. This thing came out of genuine passion and excitement. Maybe writing, art, music or neuroscience for that matter. But it was something that made us feel complete and we could never imagine our lives without it. Sometimes we would spend hours daydreaming about what this might be like. We might even formulate a plan in our heads as to how we would reach that dream. And in some cases, if possible, we might begin logging hours of practice towards this dream. But then, we get older and become busy with responsibilities. And the growing pains of coming of age and eventually adulthood can sling those dreams to the backseat. And eventually, further down the line, those dreams are not even in the car any more. Why do you think so many of us are going through, or went through a "quarter life crisis"? Because we let our dreams die.
Later on down the road this "quarter life crisis" will rear its head in other ways. It will become a drinking habit, relationship problems, self-hate, financial stress. So we will tell ourself some story about why things are this way and will justify why our lives are they way they are. Or we'll believe its a case of depression so we'll go to the doctor and get medication and completely drown out what it is that our true selves are screaming at us. "Don't Let Your Dreams Die, Damnit!"
I can not think of a time in my life when I felt more at ease, more happy, more myself than when I am creating art. That was my dream. It was my dream since I could remember. I could see myself going off to New York and displaying my work in galleries and making friends with other artists and having many adventures traveling the world. But then just as described above, the dream slipped away. And I began telling myself some narrative about why I wasn't doing art any more.
"I'm not inspired"
"I am just so busy"
"I'm not really that good anyway"
"I think I want to become a tax preparer"
"My family wouldn't be too happy"
We don't need to go into discussing these narrative that we tell ourselves much, because that is all they are. They're just stories. Much like mythology. So, what would it take, or what would it be like if you took that book of stories you've been telling yourself your entire life, the stories that you created and that have been passed down to you generation after generation and you threw it in the fire? Just take a moment a think about this.
Aw, now don't you feel better. No, no, don't let those new stories come. They're just the same old stories with new words. Just let those thought bubbles float on down river.
Look, I know it's not easy. Destroying all these stories that we have taken so much time to develop. But believe me, you need to stop telling stories and start re-writing them. You don't have to write the whole book tomorrow. You just have to put in a little bit of time. Just take a step. Next thing you know you're telling your self a whole new story. Let's just hope you get it right this time. Tell yourself the story you really want to believe. The one where you have self-confidence and an abundance of health, wealth and happiness.
It's not going to be easy. Your old stories are going to try to make their way into your life again. Your mind and body are going to be uncomfortable with all this new and different action going on in your life. I personally struggle everyday to stay on task. I face challenges too. I try to work out my story everyday so it is in favor of what I want. As an aspiring artist and stay at home mom, there are days that I only make 15 minutes of progress. Other days it's 4 hours! Which is a miracle. But everyday I am getting closer, and stronger and better. Momentum is building I am becoming more confident. I can see and feel the abundance in my life. And everyday I feel that I am living my dream. Live your dream right now!
What stories or lies do you tell yourself that prevents you from following your dreams? And how fast can you destroy all the lies?